We grow up in a society that teaches us to follow certain rules. Ways of speaking, acting, and even thinking that are deemed acceptable. Which can make it hard for those who fit outside of that mold---misfits, as I like to call them.
Often, it isn't until adulthood that we begin to truly grapple with the qualities that make us misfits, and hopefully find ways to make them work for us. After all, these qualities are what I believe make up your Blueprint. Rather than learned traits, they're ones that you've always displayed. And sometimes society can make us think that these things are weaknesses.
I can think of a few:
The reality is, none of these qualities are inherently bad or wrong. However there's a vicious cycle of ostracizing or criticizing these qualities, which prevents people from developing them into strengths, which continues the cycle of criticism. So the "downsides" often outweigh the upsides.
We begin to break the cycle when we can recognize that we should embrace our Blueprint. That means turning the tables on qualities that may be perceived as negative. All they really need is a little nurturing. If you're a lifelong procrastinator, maybe you should nurture your skill for working under pressure. Create deadlines for yourself to simulate that feeling. If you've been a people pleaser your whole life, perhaps your real strength is in seeing the needs of others. You can do just that, while remembering to care for your own needs too.
Ultimately, there's a lot to unpack when it comes to our perceived weaknesses. There could be a lifetime of baggage there. And it takes work to discover your true Blueprint. If you ever need someone to help you through the weeds, I'm here.
To hear the experience of someone who turned her Contrarian nature into her superpower, listen to my interview with Jennie Steed.