The truth is---you have to start shining your light. Stepping out. Shouting through your bullhorn. The metaphor is up to you! But unless you start broadcasting exactly who you are, the people who are meant for you won't know where to look.
What I see most often is that people are afraid of shining their light for a few reasons. They've had their self-esteem shattered, or put themselves out there only to be met with the wrong people. Sometimes, people just aren't given the opportunity to truly be themselves. Or, they felt like they had to "fit in" to find a job--and they haven't been themselves in a long time.
If any of those scenarios resonates with you, I hope you'll consider this next part...